Lori Harvey said “remember you are the prize” but let’s be serious here we are not all Lori Harvey. While being delusional is encouraged… delusion void of action is madness.
“The prize” in a relationship means to be highly valued and sought after by potential partner.
So in this blog post I want to share with you guys the fifth and final lesson I learned after going on 100 dates across the globe. Parts 1-4 can be found on the blog. Everyone is a prize for someone, but becoming the prize for your dream partner is a whole different game. Who knows, maybe you already are… if so, this post isn’t for you, but please leave some of your tips below!!
Please note that this conversation is very subjective and very nuanced. Everyone is different and what everyone is looking for varies, so take this advice with a huge grain of salt lol. Without further ado here is How to Become the Prize.
You can think of a relationship as a team. In the most simple way I can say this…. no one wants dead weight. Personally, I think looks will get you in the door, but what else?? What makes you a person people want to be around? Ideally everyone, including ambitious men, want someone who is going to do one of two things or both…
- Make them look better.
- Make them better.
So what does that mean for you?
Firstly, before any of this, you have to love yourself. You have to love yourself enough to change and grow. You have to continue to become the best version of yourself, whatever that may look like. After you have that covered and you’re ready to find a person that fits the future you want for yourself, you have to decide what you want and what your non-negotiables are. Think really hard about this because you should never lower your standards or redraw your boundaries. In saying that, you have to step up to that plate.
8 ways to become the prize.
- You should be the ideal partner for your ideal partner.
- Your standards hold no weight if you don’t bring anything to the table.
- Develop a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. When you believe in yourself, it will be easier for others to see your value as well.
- Work on yourself: Improve yourself by developing your skills and interests, and take care of your physical and emotional well-being.
- Be selective: Don’t settle for just anyone, be picky and look for someone who is a good match for you.
- Be positive: Have a positive attitude and outlook on life. Positive energy is contagious and will attract others to you.
- Be independent: Have your own life and interests outside of the relationship. Being independent will make you more attractive to high value partners.
- Be authentic and genuine: Partners are often looking for someone who is true to themselves and not trying to be someone else. Be yourself and be genuine.
If you keep this in mind on your self growth journey, your dream partner will find you because you are now occupying the spaces that align with the vision you have for your future life. You get me?
Becoming the best version of yourself is becoming the prize. It’s important to remember that being “the prize” in a relationship does not mean being perfect, it’s about valuing yourself and being confident in your own worth.
2 responses to “Part 5: How To Become The Prize”
really love reading your blogs, it’s a gift each week in my inbox. I had a comment on your 7th “piece to the prize” where you mention, “Be independent…” – does this in your eyes speak to as you put it “have your own life and interests solely? Or are there other independent aspects you’ve found to be pillars in being the prize? For ex. but not limited too, I’ve found that emotional independence or managing one’s responsibilities as an adult (lots fall here) also the independence to be a free thinker are wonderful attributes I’ve seen in my relationship.
Thank you so much! I completely agree. Forming your own identity and being secured and fulfilled in that identity is critical. I think a relationship is like a dinner party; everyone should bring something different to the table:)