Happy Wednesday people <3 Let’s get right into it.
What is power jealousy?
This article by VeryWellMind very briefly touches on it and defines it as “this type of jealousy [which] stems from personal insecurity.” it goes on to explain that “you may be jealous of someone who has what you want. When a coworker receives a promotion or a reward that you wish to receive, for example, you may become jealous.”
Don’t Worry Everyone Gets Jealous
Firstly, I wanted to write this brief article because it dawned on me that many people may not know how let their jealousy work to their benefit. We have all experienced being happy for and jealous of someone at the same time. If you are a mature adult your first instinct may be to shove it deep down; you may wonder where you went wrong on your self growth journey and remind yourself that it’s just not your turn to shine.
Secondly, While I think hiding from your jealousy may be a noble thing to do, I feel like you are missing out on a critical growth opportunity. This leads me to the meat and potatoes of this post.
The next time you are feeling jealous of someone this is what you should do:
- Take a moment to identify exactly what it is that you’re jealous of. This person clothes, their looks, their status, etc.
- Verbalize what you are jealous of in your mind. Call it how it is. Not so much “I am jealous of this person because of how well they are doing in life”, but be specific about what aspect of the person you’re jealous of i.e “I am jealous of how disciplined this person is when it comes to building their dream life.”
- Connect it to the inadequacy you see in yourself. “I am jealous because I struggle to be that disciplined.”
- Understand what is the root cause of that inadequacy is. What does “disciplined” even mean to you? Is it about what time you wake up or your gym routine? Or is it about following though on the commitments you make to your self?
- What would need to change for you to be on that level? What would you need to change in or around you to alleviate that inadequacy? “I would be more disciplined if I went to the gym every morning or if I followed a diet plan.”
- Now do it.
Being jealous at times is normal, but the more often you use it to your betterment the less often you’ll experience it. Last week’s post talks about why bad things happen to good people so be sure to check that out too.
Side note… this semester has me in a chokehold! I feel like I am doing everything and nothing at the exact same time. I’m gonna drop a more fun blog next week so as always stay tuuneddd 🙂
